You are Who YOU Choose to be, not what others allow you to be.

Confidence in yourself.

They are often set for us by others, but they truly don’t mean anything until we choose to accept them, and when we do, we limit ourselves and that is the worst thing you could ever do to yourself.

The truth is life is supposed to be limitless, like in that movie. A guy who absolutely hates his life takes an NZT pill and suddenly he becomes a genius and he’s able to achieve all his goals and desires within a week or two.

Limitless is by far one of my favourite movies, not because I’m a fan of the actors, or the NZT or anything else, but because of the story. The way I see it is that the NZT actually represents a decision, which ANYONE of you can make.

That decision is to remove and reject the limitations that other set for you, but most importantly the ones that you set for yourself.

I don’t want this to sound cliche and I definitely don’t want to sound like those motivational YouTube videos, but you can truly be whoever you want.

Whatever you want to do in life can not only be accomplished by you, in fact, it can be mastered by you.


Your heart will keep you safe:

For so many years of my life, I made my decisions on what to wear, what to say, what to do and what goals to accomplish simply by choosing from options that were socially acceptable and that others let me choose from. That is very very limiting and it’s very sad as well. It’s a miserable way of life, but the truth is 99% of people live life that way, every day because it’s SAFE.

I absolutely hate the word SAFE and I think you should remove it from your brain if you want to be successful in life because there really isn’t anything that can be considered safe or dangerous. Do you know why?

Because any decision you make, whether it’s about what you want to wear, what you want to do or who you want to be, all those decisions are yours. One important thing you have to pay attention to is that these decisions are truly yours and that they’re in fact coming from your hear and not from someone else’s limitations and ‘’rules’’ about what you can and cannot do.

When you make a decision from your heart, that is absolutely 100% yours and it is genuine, then that decision is SAFE. I don’t care what anyone says or thinks about your decision if you believe it’s coming from your heart, then it’s SAFE.

An amazing book I read, which really helped me and allowed me to connect with my heart and its desires can be found here. It’s worth checking out.

Fear is an illusion:

Here’s the catch.

The only time you could ever say something you want to accomplish, do, or become is DANGEROUS or UNSAFE is when you’re afraid. Not afraid of the result, but afraid of what other people would think or say about you if you were to fail. It’s such fucking bullshit to care about what people think of you. You know why? Because it doesn’t matter.

It doesn’t matter for a second if they laugh, if they make fun of you or if every single one of them judges you. Sure I know it won’t feel good, I’ve experienced a lot of pain which resulted in self-doubt, because of all the judging, laughing and so on…

But now I’m grateful for it, do you know why? Because I figured it all out. I know exactly why it was constantly happening and why my life always went back there to experience that same pain, there was clearly a lesson hidden beneath it.

The truth is: You ARE who you think you are and who you allow yourself to be.


The only opinion that matters is your opinion.

This is a very very important statement that absolutely changed my life. Think about it, when you stop paying attention and take away the value of the comments that other people make about you, your decisions and your life, well then they don’t have anything left.

Your thoughts, which you keep repeating to yourself over time become your beliefs and if you keep repeating other people’s opinions about yourself, you’ll be trapped. You’ll be trapped for the rest of your life. That’s why I felt like for about 18 years until I figured it out.

Remember: Take away the value of their opinion, when there is no value there is no their opinion, there’s only your opinion.

When there’s only your opinion you’re not only always right, but you always feel worthy, confident, powerful and limitless. You don’t doubt yourself or your actions because you know that even if you fail, there won’t be any judging, or at least none that matters, unless you judge yourself. There will only be you and your opinion.

Hopefully you don’t judge yourself though, but we will go more in depth on that topic in a future post.

Hopefully this post made sense and it wasn’t all over the place. I just let my thoughts go and I wrote them down, hopefully you can find some value in this. 🙂

Thanks for reading.

Until next time,

– Benjamin 🙂

2 Replies to “You are Who YOU Choose to be, not what others allow you to be.

  1. Very motivational article. Most people don’t really know what is best for us – only we do! I think it’s really important to focus on your own goals, regardless of what other people think. Great article!

    1. That’s exactly what I was trying to say with this article. Thank you very much for reading and leaving a kind comment Timothy. It means a lot.
      Keep up the good work yourself. 🙂

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