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STOP Feeling Like a Loser [GUIDE]

Why you’re feeling like a loser

I think it’s important to understand that these negative feelings, that make us feel like we’re not doing good enough all have a good purpose.

You see, these feelings are the origin of your beliefs.

They’re the origin of your belief that you’re on this planet to do big things.

This belief often results in ambition, but in some cases, it can go in the opposite direction.

If you’re not happy with the direction in which your life is heading, you’ll start to experience negative feelings.

These negative feelings aren’t necessarily bad, they’re merely a manifestation of a belief that you can and deserve better.

When we experience these negative feelings there’s only one thing you can do to make it go away. We will talk about in this post.

feeling like a loser

How to STOP Feeling Like a Loser

What do you want, what makes you happy?

It all starts by taking a look at your life and figuring out which area is causing you these negative feelings.

Most of the time, it’s one of these three:

  • Work,
  • Relationships,
  • Health.

Write them down on a piece of paper and look at them. Consider one by one and be completely transparent with yourself.

What area is causing you the most pain?

Defining Your Problem and Your Goal

Now that we know a problem, we need to get a bit more specific. We need to set a specific goal (most of the time it’s merely a solution to the problem).

Let’s say that our problem lies in the field of health.

Problem

We don’t feel well confident in our body, because we’re out of shape.

Goal

Lose 20 pounds in the next 6 months.

So we have our current situation (problem) and our destination (goal), now we need to build a bridge to seal the gap.

Work, relationships, health

Defining Your Problem and Your Goal

Now that we know a problem, we need to get a bit more specific. We need to set a specific goal (most of the time it’s merely a solution to the problem).

Let’s say that our problem lies in the field of health.

Problem

We don’t feel well confident in our body, because we’re out of shape.

Goal

Lose 20 pounds in the next 6 months.

So we have our current situation (problem) and our destination (goal), now we need to build a bridge to seal the gap.

 

How to Turn Your Life Around by Hacking Habits

 

Breaking a goal down into small daily actions

That bridge will be a daily action. It’ll be an action you take EVERY SINGLE DAY until you achieve your goal and the gap is sealed.

To come up with your daily action, ask yourself these questions:

  • What are the main actions that will give me results?
  • How can I make that BIG SCARY action, smaller, simpler?
  • What is a small daily action, I can take to reach my goal in the next 6 months?

If we look at our problem and goal, we can clearly see that we only have 2 BIG changes to make. We need to change our diet and include exercise.

But these are BIG changes, how can we turn them into small daily action?

We pick one and we minimize it.

Instead of drastically changing our diet, we can stop consuming all beverages except water.

Instead of exhausting ourselves with a ton of exercise, we can start with a 15-min daily run.

BUT BEFORE YOU START…

Before you start including habits/small daily action into your life, you need to know something.

A LOT of small daily actions can overwhelm you just as fast (if not faster), than a BIG action.

This is why it’s important to only add 1 new habit per month.

This is why it’s important to only add 1 small action to your daily routine, every month.

If you add any more than that, you’ll feel overwhelmed and lose consistency.

If we break our goal down into months, it would look something like this…

Month 1 – Stop consuming all beverages, except water.

Month 2 – Go on a 15-min run, every single morning.

Month 3 – Eliminate ALL SUGAR from your diet.

Month 4 – Up your 15 minute runs, to 30 mins.

Month 5 – Incorporate intermittent fasting into your life.

Month 6 – Start doing 4 sets of MAX push-ups every single day.

It’s important to note, that each month, you don’t STOP with the previous habit.

You simply make it bigger or add another habit on top of it. But you NEVER let it go.

If you break every single goal down into months and tiny actions, I can PROMISE YOU, you’ll achieve it.

At the end of the day, you only need 2 THINGS to do so…

 

The Power of Patience and Consistency

Usually, when we encounter a problem in any of the 3 life areas we listed in the beginning, we want to get the desired results straight away.

That’s a wrong way to go about things.

Lack of patience is the ONLY REASON for failure.

The thing is. If you hate every single minute of the process you won’t achieve your goal.

If you hate every single minute of the process, you’ll always be looking for a quick way out.

This is why we’ll leverage the power of small daily actions. They won’t make you miserable, but they will get you results.

But patience alone won’t get you results, you’ll also need consistency.

Consistency is the one sole factor that creates momentum and compounds your results.

When you consistently perform a small daily action, it will get easier and easier as you build momentum.

But not only that. At the same time, you’ll also leverage the law of compounding, which is what will deliver you the desired results.

power of compounding

Habit Tracker, the No. 1 Tool for Success

Habit trackers have been around for some time now, but I still feel that they’re not being utilized properly.

People start with BIG habits, not only that, they also start with multiple ones. Most of the time they stick to the habit tracker for the first 5 days, but then they throw it away.

This is another reason why small habits, work much better than BIG ones.

So how can you use this Habit Tracker for success?

Simple. Every single month enter the days into the tracker.

At the top enter the habit you’re working on and track it.

Open up the tracker once a day, after you have taken the small daily action and give it a checkmark.

Habit Tracker BenjaminStrusnik.com

After a few days, your brain will WANT TO keep performing the daily action. So, in reality, all you have to do is push through the first 5 days.

After that, you’ll automatically want to do it. We, humans, are programmed in a way that we’ll always avoid LOSSES.

Your brain will do whatever it takes not to lose the habit streak.

Conclusion

Feeling like a loser, might not be a bad thing.

In fact, if the negative feelings are channeled into something positive, it’ll more often than not result in a better life.

It all starts by taking a look at your life and choosing an area that’s causing you pain.

Then, with the use of habits, patience, and consistency, you turn that area around and improve your life.

It really isn’t as hard as people make it out to be.