‘’What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.’’ – Zig Ziglar
I have a deep feeling that all of our minds have been programmed wrong about the idea of achieving goals. I’ve done a lot of research on this subject and I think I’m ready to share my realization with you in order to help you get what you desire.
If you haven’t read my previous post on patience and why it’s crucial to success in both business in life, I highly recommend reading it before continuing with this post as it will make a lot more sense. Patience is everything.
I will divide each point into two parts. The first part will be about how I used to think goals are achieved and the second will be how I think about that same point now. Take notes.
How to achieve goals in life:
I used to think goals were achieved by the amount of luck a person has in his ‘’luck bucket’’ aka good karma. I used to think successful people were merely a result of being at the right place at the right time. I used to think that the opportunity they got was a result of luck, but I soon figured that was not the case.
Successful people don’t get opportunities, neither do they get them as a result of being lucky. Successful people create opportunities. They create them for themselves and others. These opportunities all started with an idea that was followed by the right action.
Not only one action though, continuous action. Everything that is, was once just an idea. It was the continuous action that had been taken that allowed the idea to develop into something extraordinary that it is now. Taking action is as simple as walking. Taking one step at a time and dealing with everything that comes your way that tries to get you out of balance.
You should write your goals down.
Another wrong interpretation I had about achieving goals was the fact that I thought that in order to set goals for yourself all that’s required is keeping them in the back of your head. I couldn’t have been more wrong.
A Harvard study proved this by doing an experiment, they took two groups. One who wrote their goals down and another one who didn’t. They discovered that the group that wrote their goals down had a much higher probability of achieving them. The study can be read here.
When we don’t write down our goals we either forget about them, we lose focus or we change them. We change them because we go through a rough patch and they seem hard to achieve.
Guess what happens when you write your goals down? You can’t change them.
The last point is the one I’m still having some issues with, but I’m slowly but surely getting better at it. I think people who are control freaks like me with a loud mind will be able to relate.
Detaching yourself from your goals will make them easier and more fun to achieve.
Often times I find myself trying to figure out how I will achieve my goals. I know what you’re thinking, isn’t that a good thing? Well yes, it is, but only when it comes to small goals. Hear me out.
This especially applies to manifesting and the law of attraction. After you set your goals, do your visualizations and take proper action all you need is patience. There’s nothing else that’s required of you.
You only need to make sure you’re taking the required steps in the right direction. You need to leave everything else alone. The thing is we often try to predict HOW we will get what we desire, how we will achieve our goals, meet those people, etc.
When we listen and associate with our ego/mind and we try to predict it. We’re not only slowing down the process, in fact, we’re decreasing the chances of it manifesting itself. I know how fun predicting can be, but I ask you kindly to just let go. Let go of trying to control how it will happen, but rather just stay patient and let it happen when it decides to happen.
Although I did discover most of our goals and desires manifest through other people, so make sure to accept every single person that comes into your life. More about that can be read here. 😉
Until next time,